Post Wedding Depression – Dealing With Post Wedding Depression

With all the time and effort that goes into planning a wedding these days you will forgive some brides for feeling more than a little deflated once the celebrations are over. Post wedding depression or post wedding blues has become a recognized condition and experts point to it being a major factor in divorce’s occurring within the first two years of marriage.

For many brides their wedding day has been months or even years in the making. Many have lived and breathed all things wedding for so long that once the day itself has come and gone and the honeymoon is over, returning to the daily 9 to 5 is hard to do. Many find it hard to settle into married life, especially as they find themselves no longer the focus of every conversation or the center of attention.

Some brides are able to deal with post wedding depression by actually becoming wedding planners themselves, having enjoyed planning their own wedding that much they want to help other brides achieve the day of their dreams. But for others it is much harder to fill void left and whilst some will find new focus in planning a family, others find it more difficult even to the point where they feel that their wedding day was something of an anti-climax and that married life is not what they envisaged.

So why is it harder for brides to move on from the wedding and why do grooms not develop post wedding depression? Possibly because in most instances the groom has very little input into the wedding itself, perhaps only pausing to book transport, pick up the wedding rings and write his speech. Making the transition back into everyday life is much easier because his focus has not really been elsewhere for the past year or so. As a result they may find it harder to understand what their new wife is feeling or even what post wedding depression is.

I am no psychologist, but I do think there are some things you can do from the moment you get engaged to help you keep everything in perspective and not let your wedding take over your entire life from here on in.

The first is to try to remain grounded. You may have been dreaming of this day since you were a little girl but you need to keep it in perspective and remember it is just one day. Big budget weddings can be all consuming and take an awful lot of planning, sharing the burden with family and friends will ensure you do not get overly stressed or begin the slippery slope into bridezilla-dom! Think about what is most important about your wedding day and know that nothing matters, not the designer dress or the gourmet menu, expect that you are man and wife by the end of it.

If your wedding day is rather more low key you may be thinking that post wedding depression will in no way affect you. But many newly wed brides have said they actually had feelings of depression once the honeymoon had ended and that no longer being the center of attention was a contributing factor. Certainly throwing yourself back into everyday life and work just a day after you return from honeymoon can certainly bring on the blues. Many of us feel the same after returning from a long holiday. So book your honeymoon a day or two after your wedding day and give yourselves and day or two at home once you return. These additional days will give you a chance to relax after the wedding and reflect on what a great day it was, and latterly to reflect on your honeymoon and to simply ease yourselves back into daily life.

Depression in any form is a serious condition so if you are feeling low after your wedding it is a good idea to talk to someone like a close friend or to seek counselling to help you regain your focus and look forward to your new life together.

Sources : http://www.1weddingsource.com/content/post-wedding-depression-dealing-post-wedding-depression-426/